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What explains seeming uptick in female teachers having inappropriate relationships with male students?

Delaware has had two cases come to light in several days, the latest involving a 22-year-old, English teacher at Fred Fifer III Middle School in Camden accused of having a sexual relationship with a 13-year-old boy.

What do you think explains the seeming increase of stories about female teachers having inappropriate relationships with their students?

Perhaps it has always happened, but whereas before it was swept under the rug, today there's more vigorous monitoring, follow-up, and prosecution? (You didn't have pervasive, omnipresent cameras a generation ago.)

Relaxed sexual mores on all sides, a sexualized culture where young women in professional situations have reduced inhibitions and perhaps even the boys do? Exchanging numerous explicit phone messages and photographs?

More immature young women with arrested emotional development drawn into the teaching profession who then fantasize and idealize a relationship with young male student, perhaps after having had disappointing relationships with men their own age or older?


Here's the U.K. tabloid DAILY MAIL U.S. edition's treatment of the latest Delaware story...


http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2615003/English-teacher-sex-13-year-old-student-exchanging-explicit-pictures-driving-home-school.html


Counselor/therapist Mary Jo Rapini offers her take on the seeming increase of stories about female teachers going down this trail...


http://www.yourtango.com/experts/mary-jo-rapini/female-teachers-sex-students-why

Posted at 8:41am on April 29, 2014 by Allan Loudell

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Comments on this post:

billsmith
Tue, Apr 29, 2014 9:37am
What's the big deal? I am reminded of the scene in "Animal House" where the sorority girl dressed as a Playboy bunny flies through a kid's bedroom window as he's looking at Playboy. The kid says, "Thank you, God."

What we have here are a boy getting luckier than he deserves and not keeping his mouth shut. She gives him the greatest gift and this is how he repays it.

This is political correctness run amok. Before, we had to "protect" innocent girls from "dirty old men" so they could "save themselves" and be "pure" for marriage. Boys didn't need protecting. Now, PC rules require everybody be protected - although nobody is expected to stay "pure."

Here is my earlier response to Pizza, who already has raised this issue here:

"You all complain about how Delaware doesn't get enough attention from the rest of the country. This should fix that. I wonder how many teenaged boys had at least one teacher they fantasized about. Probably nearly all. These guys are among the few that got to live the dream. Or maybe their prayers were answered.

As I recall the Trobriand Islanders turn boys over to mature women and girls over to mature men for "instruction." Much better than letting to two horny kids with no idea what they are doing grope each other. School should be teaching Kama Sutra, Tantra, ESO and other techniques to kids."

Mike
Tue, Apr 29, 2014 9:42am
This is not a new problem. In fact, even at the height of the Catholic Church abuse stories a decade ago, abuse of children by public school teachers dwarfed that by Catholic priests. A 2002 study commissioned by the U.S. Department of Education found that abuse of children by public school teachers is perhaps 100 times that by priests.

Perhaps these cases are more in the news now because of the crisis in the Catholic Church. In the past, these teachers often were disciplined internally - if they were disciplined at all - and few were prosecuted or even lost their teaching license. Many were encouraged to go teach elsewhere with a recommendation from the first district, known as "passing the trash."

Allan Loudell
Tue, Apr 29, 2014 10:07am
Mike---

I substantially agree with you, but it seemed, at first, we heard or read many more stories involving male teachers.

Of course, Mary Kay Letourneau (now Mary Kay Fualaau) became the classic story of a female teacher, and - as evidenced by her surname today - that really was a longterm passionate attachment...

Allan Loudell

kavips
Tue, Apr 29, 2014 12:19pm
Since there is no way to determine the real motives, I might as well wade in with pure speculation on this topic as the rest of you.

I would point to the current demands placed on the teaching profession which denies a person one's personal life, and particularly if one is young, since the arrangement is consensual, and it is an age difference (5-10 years) existing quite often in older married couples, it causes rational judgment to default to emotional judgment.

If you work from 6--5 and then grade papers at home till 10 or 11, and see friends of yours having normal lives, going out, getting married when you can't even find time for a date, it might make one more inclined to say "what the heck", when an emotional opportunity presents itself.

This is still a very small anomaly of the public teaching force however... Probably less frequent of a percentage than missing jetliners...

billsmith
Tue, Apr 29, 2014 1:53pm
Kav: Good points. I have heard from several guys I know who teach high school that teeny-bopper girls are often the aggressors. And I remember from my own experience teen-aged boys are very, very willing and eager. Sounds like this is all so consensual.

Why is it the same people who say a teen-aged girl should be able to get the pill, decide to have an abortion, or buy the morning-after pill on her own is incapable of consenting to sex with with an older partner? At the same time she is able to consent with a boy about her own age - inexperienced and probably more likely to knock her up.

George Clooney just got engaged. He's 52. She's 36 (16 years difference). When she became legal, ER was going from its second to third season.

mrpizza
Tue, Apr 29, 2014 8:02pm
It's a mad mad mad mad mad mad mad mad world!

mrpizza
Tue, Apr 29, 2014 8:19pm
Give 'em another ten years and they'll legalize it.
Just remember it was ole Mr. Pizza that warned you.

billsmith
Tue, Apr 29, 2014 8:28pm
Hey, Pizza... Here's a freebie from me to you. Something for you to rant about.
Kenya - ancestral home of the Obamas - has legalized polygamy. Marriage is between a man and women. But relax. Homosexuality is still illegal.

http://www.thewire.com/politics/2014/04/kenyas-new-polygamy-law-is-a-win-for-mens-rights-activists/361372/

mrpizza
Wed, Apr 30, 2014 2:26am
Sounds like a good place to retire to as long as their ancestors don't return.


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